We got married.
We moved out.
We are learning how to manage our own household, our own schedules, our finances as a family.
We are learning how to disagree well, how to love well and fight well, how to compromise when it comes to differences. You see, J is a very organised person when it comes to physical space.. I on the other hand, is more organised when it comes to finances/scheduling/planning stuff. On some days this can work for us, on some days this works against us. But we are learning.
We are now searching for a home to call our own, which is a huge decision because its more than half a million dollars and would be what we would spend a big part of our lives trying to pay off. It would determine whether how much time our child would spend travelling to school everyday. It would determine the type of neighbours we would have. It would almost determine, to a certain extent, the life we would be leaving. We have moved from wanting a BTO to getting a resale instead. From Bidadari to somewhere closer to our parents. We have learnt a lot about what to look out for in getting a house.
Honestly, we have learnt A LOT in the past two months. We've only been married for two months but our lives are seriously changing. Our little family of two is also expanding. That happened really quickly. There's so much we do not know with regards to parenthood and even being pregnant. This is probably the steepest learning curve of all. Firstly, managing the fatigue and morning sickness and dizziness and headaches is certainly not easy. Nobody would understand this except a fellow pregnant mother, which is why I am extremely thankful for the 5 other pregnant mothers in the cg, and 2 who have already given birth. Thats a lot. Our CG is expanding at an alarming rate, our government would be very happy. Then there's all that information out there about pregnancy, motherhood. I am trying my best to hold back on my purchases until the first trimester is over, and trying not to be overwhelmed by the wealth of information available. Above all, I am trying to enjoy the process as much as possible, both individually and with J, learning to pray together for what we 'created' together. It is a very exciting journey.
Of course, none of this would have been possible without the support we have had from both our families. Both physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially. We have a little space to call our own only because my parents have been so generous to us. That has truly been a huge blessing! We meet my family once to three times a week, and J's family once a week. I am thankful that I have a husband who is intentional about going back home to visit our parents even when we are tired and schedules are tight.
So, this summarises our past two months. We've only been married for two months.. I have to keep reminding myself that because so much has happened in these two months.
